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'An Autobiography of a One Year Old' by Rohan Candappa.
Ever wondered what your One Year Old thinks about life? Then get this book to enlighten you and you will be amazed at what they understand! It is a very funny and witty book and comes highly recommended. I would give this book 9/10.
How to cope with Toddler Tantrums
You are cruising around Tesco with a toddlers in the trolley. The child seems quite
happy but your nerves are on edge; you are bracing yourself for the inevitable -
As you ease around the end of an aisle it happens. Your toddler spots sweets/videos.Tweenie yoghurt and demands one NOW! You gently refuse, but its too late. She explodes, screaming, writhing ,arms flail, legs kick out, and as you try to restrain her you feel every shopper's eyes staring disapprovingly in your direction.
It is hideous, shattering and acutely embarrassing, but toddler tantrums are a fact
of life. Supermarkets are a favourite venue, temptation lies across every path. To
try to help improve child behaviour, the BBC has launched a do-
One thing is clear: no matter how angelic your child seems at times or how harmonious your relationship is, you are unlikely to escape the tantrum phase altogether. Dr. Dorothy Einon, a child psychologist who has been working on Angelmouse, says tantrums affect 80% of children aged between 20 months and 4 years. And these displays of fury are reserved in the main, for the mother, because she is who they love the most.
Einon says the cause of most tantrums is a perceived "lack of attachment" between mother and child. "baby animals are most comfortable when linked closely with their mother and become agitated when separated," she says. "Children are no different; if you child feels the bond is being broken by you chatting on the phone or washing up, he may become agitated and do anything to regain your attention."
The reason tantrums specifically affect two to four year olds is because of a hiatus in a child's psychological development, says Einon. "At around 18 months children begin to understand themselves as individuals. This is when they first recognise themselves in the mirror and start to talk about 'Me!' and 'My'!.
"They understand 'myself' but not 'yourself'. The reason tantrums usually clear at four years old is because by then most children grasp the fact that other people have minds and emotions separate from their own. Imagine how frustrating it must be for children when they want something really badly, but you're not going to give it to them. They know what they want but cant understand that you don't want the same thing".
When you face the prospect of a tantrum at any time it helps to understand what is going on in your toddlers mind, especially as your reaction to a tantrum can greatly influence how long it lasts and whether it is repeated. If you get angry, you are playing into your toddlers hands. "Children of tantrum age want their mother's attention, " Says Einon "And if they cant get your smiles, they will take your anger in preference to being ignored".
Keeping calm in the middle of the storm.
REMEMBER: Tantrums are normal toddler behaviour; your child doesn't hate you and you are not a bad parent. Here are some tips on avoiding and dealing with them.
Don't go shopping when your toddler is tired, hungry or obviously looking for trouble,or when you are tired, hungry or feel that you cant cope with a tantrum.
Bring drinks, nibbles, comics or books to keep your child entertained on shopping
trips.Take your child for a slow, interactive trip to the shops, chatting and explaining
as you go around so shopping doesn't become a negative experience.Emphasise the positive
in the things you say; if your child asks to go to the swings don't say "no, not
now", try, "what a great idea, I'll just finish doing this then we can get our coats
on".Diversion tactics can help to avoid a tantrum if you can think of something interesting
enough, quickly enough.Offer children a choice whenever you can so they feel they
have some control over what is happening to them.If a tantrum is approaching, take
the child to a calm, quiet atmosphere, sit quietly with them until the mood passes.If
faced with a full-
First Stage: (lasts up to eight days): irritability, runny nose, red eyes(conjunctivitis), cough, loss of appetite, increasing fever.
Second Stage: (from around day four, lasts for four to seven days): rash, of flat red or brown blotches that flow into each other. Race progresses from face to neck then body, making its way to feet.
Fever Peaks: (up to 40.6c -
(Health Promotion England)
(Justice, Awareness and Basic Support Group.)
Taken from National Meningitis Trust Leaflet
High Temperature, fever, possibly with cold hands and feet
Vomiting, or refusing feeds
High Pitched moaning, whimpering cry
Blank, staring expression
Pale, blotchy complexion
Baby may be floppy,may dislike being handled, be fretful
Difficult to wake up or lethargic
The fontanelle (soft spot on babies heads) may be tense or bulging.
(National Meningitis Trust)
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