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As part of our care for one another we
operate a pastoral care network at Selsdon Baptist Church. This
network is coordinated by Ruth Manson and includes
some thirty people who share in pastoral care. The idea is that
everyone who is part of our SBC family is under the care of a
pastoral carer. The overall team is under the care of Rev Mike
Elcome, the minister, who meets regularly with the Pastoral Care
Coordinators.
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Where a person is a member of a homegroup the
pastoral care will usually operate through that homegroup,
either by the leader(s) or by others who take on pastoral care
duties within the group.
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We are well aware of the fact that the
pastoral care network is only part of the caring that goes on
within SBC, and that a lot of informal care and help is given
outside the network. That is not seen in any way as a problem,
as all caring relationships simply serve to enrich the
fellowship and to show Christ's love in different ways. Our
pastoral care network does not prevent the ministerial team from
being involved in pastoral care themselves. The network serves
to supplement their work and do what they are not able to do. If
anyone at any time wants to talk to, meet, or have help from
anyone in the ministerial team, then all they have to do is ask.
Similarly the ministerial team will be glad to receive
information about people who are ill, in hospital or otherwise
in need of help, encouragement or a visit.
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If you are a member or a regular attender,
you will have been allocated a pastoral carer. If you are new to
the church you may be asked if you would like to be included in
this scheme. If you are included then you will know who your
pastoral carer is. You will be able to contact them if you have
a need or if you feel that there is something that can be done
to help you. They can be your point of contact if that is
helpful to you, but that does not in any way prevent you from
exploring other avenues of help.
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Your pastoral carer will try to be aware if
there are any particular circumstances of pastoral need in your
situation and where possible will make sure that you are being
supported or helped. You may find that you get to know your
pastoral carer and that a friendship develops between you. This
is all to the good when it happens, but it does not matter if it
does not. Your pastoral Carer will have a number of people to
care for, so will not be able to give any one person exclusive
attention.
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If you feel you have not been allocated the
right person as your pastoral carer, then a change can easily be
made. You might feel that you would like to suggest someone who
knows you better, or you may leave it up to us to decide. If you
want to change your pastoral carer, then the Pastoral Care
Coordinators can arrange this for you. It may be, for example,
that you decide to join a homegroup, or that you change
homegroups and if you think that such changes will affect your
pastoral care please do not hesitate to let the Pastoral Care
Coordinators know.
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Your pastoral carer will make sure that you
are visited if you need that, and will bring your needs to the
church for prayer where this is appropriate. They can help you
with information about the church and can put you in touch with
a homegroup, if you have not already begun to explore this.
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The pastoral care network is not a
counselling service, nor are those who offer their services as
pastoral carers trained as counsellors. You may come to a
situation in life which requires more professional or trained
help and at such times you should talk with the Pastoral Care
Coordinators or the minister who will try to make appropriate
arrangements for you.
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Our pastoral care network is not perfect, and
sometimes people do 'slip through the net', and pastoral carers
themselves can have their own problems. However, imperfect
though it is, it is an attempt to experience love, care, support
and encouragement for all who are part of the SBC family. The
system works best when people are prepared to share needs and to
communicate with each other, even if some of the things they
share they ask to be kept in confidence.
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All our pastoral carers are volunteers and we
are grateful to them for the service they offer. In the end,
each of us has a responsibility to show love and care for others
and we trust that the pastoral care network will help us towards
being a church that practises the new commandment to 'love one
another as Christ loved us'.
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